One difference (among many) between academic seminars and personal relationships is that there should be a mutual love-commitment between persons in the latter case. Nevertheless, what Lonergan said in the Halifax Lectures on Insight (1958) applies to interpersonal communication generally, I think.
"The more you talk with one another and throw things out, the more you probe, and the more you express yourself spontaneously, simply, frankly, not holding back in fear of making mistakes, then the more quickly you arrive at the point where you get the thing cleared up."I read this to my friend, Karel, and he said "Ah, yes. Social hermeneutics."
--Understading and Being, p.18